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Craig: I know this will be different for each guy, but if you had to pick what you see as the most important thing you can immediately change that will improve success with opening, what would that be?

Lance: You know for um, for nearly every guy uh, and there's specific things for different guys but every guy can benefit with slowing things down, being more confident, and just kind of working on the body language of having a real slow powerful presents. And it's a really difficult thing to do because the reality is when you nervous and you're going to talk to women your thinking about what you're going to say. You're not able to override you body's habits and so this is a difficult thing to do, um, but it's an amazing that will effect the areas of your life. You will literally be a more confident person when you can learn just move through a room really slowly, really powerfully and really confidently. And what I like to teach people is you know this is a tough thing to learn. It's an area of real change. If you figure how to do it, you will you will be a different person in a lot of ways. People will give you you know more space, people will respect you more, people will treat you differently. You know when you go into a restaurant, um, it's a difficult thing but the great thing is you can practice it all the time. You know I like to tell guys you can practice when you're driving in your car just kinda if you're driving in your car just kinda throughout the day just ask yourself, "hey, you know am I being really powerful at the moment? Am I really exuding power through my bodylanguage? Do I look really cool or do I look like a dork?" You know most guys are driving, they're like hunched over their wheel and all crunched up in like a little ball. And you just kinda think just kinda ask yourself that question today like, "hey am I being cool, am I being powerful, or am I being a dork?" If you ask yourself that question in the car, you know "I'm kind of not being cool right now. Alright, well I'm driving to work but I'm gonna do it right, I'm gonna do it cool." And just spread out, just kinda open up your chest, roll back your shoulders. Just kinda really act like you own the road you know like you're rolling down Sunset Blvd in your Escalade or whatever. You know whatever makes you fell powerful. Um, just practicing this stuff throughout the day uh, will just have amazing, amazing, amazing results. And that's just one of the things we love working with students on just throughout the whole weekend. Because it's so important in all areas of your like to be perceived as a confident person uh, that's really in control. I don't know Dan, do you have any thoughts about that? I'm sure you do.

Dan: Yes ah. Well I'm in the same line as really you know as being powerful. I think it's important if your gonna go and talk to those women, you really do it. You know you really commit and give it 100%. You know if you're go and kinda seeking you know reaction, seeking approval, something like that. You're gonna get a bad reaction and then it's a downward spiral. So really, it's almost like you assume that they wanna talk to you and they're gonna like you. So do it 100% really really go for it.

Lance: Yeah and really savior the moment. You know if you're expecting good results you want it to go slow. You want people to see, you want people to notice and that's a great way of communicating. "Hey I know you guys are going to love me. That's why I came up really slowly and really powerfully. I want to milk this moment." I don't know. I'm curious to hear from Gary and David. I don't know you guys been working on this since the workshop? I know it was pretty recent but.

David: I'll jump in for a second. I mean I don't have to sort of fake that they were excited. You know there were two women at the bar and when I walked up I could tell that in there mind they were saying "Jeez, you know I'm here with my friend Susie and I get to talk to Susie all the time. We came to the bar to meet guys and here's a guy and he seems to have a funny story. Isn't this cool?" And they were, they seemed glad to stop the conversation and be entertained cause frankly they were they weren't seem to interest each other that much (Lance: uh huh) and actually I didn't even have to fake like I was adding value. I think I really was.

Lance: That's great, haha. You know even if you're not faking it still works. Isn't that amazing?

Gary: Well I'll chime in. Um, I've always felt like a fish out of water in a bar. I've had my fair degree of success with women but it's never been in a bar. And on the Friday night when we had went out, I had I've had more fun than I had in my life. And um, longer conversations that were heading in the right direction. Just base on the point, you know um, ten ours of coaching. So um, I'm really enthusiastic about the weekend course that I just completed. I'm going out on Friday to the Professionals Guild. I'm 53 so I'm looking for a slightly older crowd that what I found in some of the bars. But that fine. I have no problem at all. That was kind of like a trial by fire. If I can do that I can definitely do it at the Professionals Guild. And um, I'm excited about this. I have signed up for the Art of Rapport, the day game. And um, you know I've shared with a couple of friends the money that I've already spent and committed to spend on the next course. And they've said, "jee, you know that's a lot of money." And my rejoiner was, "if I meet the woman of my dreams, was that a lot of money?" And everybody's answer was "well no, not if you meet the woman of your dreams." And I actually see this as my access to meeting a gal who's drop dead gorgeous, who I can have incredible rapport with, and really, you know, get on with my life and quit looking. So I think what Lance is offering is an incredible bargain for me personally and for most guys who are in my boat you know. So do the course.

Lance: Hey you guys, send me a picture of …

David: I want to make a follow up comment to that Gary that I don't see this as just a guy to picking up women, I think this thing has spill over into all kinds of area of your life. Ah, how to be popular at a party, how to ah, it it it this stuff have really broad applications, I think (Gary: in a job interview) exactly.

Gary: You know like making friends, male friends anywhere. It's this is good stuff. This is great stuff.

David: I don't think is controversial stuffer either. I think it's straight common sense "Oh my god why didn't I think of that stuff." Gary: Every gal, I have a lot of female friends and everyone of them that I've shared this with has said "sounds great." Nobody takes exception to it because it's all about them. Hahaha. It's all about them. They like that.

Lance: It's all about the ladies. (Gary: Yeah) Thanks guys, I appreciate the comments there. Alright so um, so that's it. I want to thank everyone for being here. I had a great time, I love talking about this stuff. I hope everybody learn something and duhh, there you go. Thanks for everyone else for helping out uh, Gary and David appreciate it, Daniel. (Dan: Yeah) Great talking with you guys. (Dan: Thanks)