The Sincere Compliment - Direct at its easiest

The words used for an opener are not as
important as the intent, the energy, and the commitment you bring to
it.

That said… I do like to think I have one absolute fall-back every
time 100% effective opener. This is something that anyone can use,
anytime, any skill level, any environment. For instance, if you are
any of the following:

You are just starting out and dealing with the daunting task of
approaching women for the first time (and wondering how in the hell
anyone ever does anything this scary). This will get you started and
get you positive responses immediately.
You can do cold approaches but have trouble running a full story, or
making an opinion opener sound right, or aren't able to jump right
into fun banter right away. This gives you the open and lets her
know right away you are more than just a guy making conversation.
You are a guy flirting with her, and totally comfortable doing it.
You can run attraction to the end of time but find that the girl
never fully commits to you, but lets you entertain her until the guy
she really connects with comes along. This establishes right from
the start that you are confident, sexual, and have intent, and
rewards her for being the woman who is deserving of that attention
(for right now).
You are a high-value guy and finding that you come on too strong for
some girls and overgame them without even realizing it. This will
get them smiling and comfortable and let them relax and appreciate
your interest.
You are super-advanced and want to see just how basic you can break
it down. This can make the game ridiculously easy now that you have
internalized all the lessons of value and fun and the potential for
great intimacy and sexual fulfillment you have to offer.

Seriously. Any one. Any time. Any where. I challenge you to come up
with a scenario where this will not open.

I think of this as three yards and a cloud of dust. It's not the
flashy aerial attack, and you may never break free and take it
straight to the house with this one, but you'll always gain positive
yardage.

So what is the secret? Simple. Give her an honest compliment. But
there are some nuances to be aware of. Here are the exact words I
open with.

"I was just on my way out, but I had to come tell you that you
are… unbelievably cute."

Now here is what I think makes this work. First, I walk up confident
but not cocky. I am not fucking around here, and I am not saying
this to get attention. This isn't a joke or a put on and she's not
on Punk'd. I'm doing this as a gift from me to her. I take the frame
that she is lovely to look at (for whatever reason… you needn't
save this for the scorching hotties… any woman who catches your
eye for any reason is deserving of a compliment).

Ben/Orion said in a DYD interview that his frame in opening is to
make a woman smile, and that always struck me as a wonderful general
philosophy. Yes, you want to give her the opportunity for so much
more than that, but if you know in your heart that you have the
ability to make pretty girls smile at any time, that you really do
believe that everything she does is cute, then why would you ever be
afraid to talk to her? Would you not then know that you do have a
power to use for good? Do you not understand how much people, and
women in particular, need, crave, and pine for real appreciation?
When you approach a woman and tell her there is something special
about her that you can't help but see, you create a world where only
the two of you exist, a world she gets to visit far too rarely.

Here's something else to keep in mind. I've read other approaches
similar to this (most notably, Kevin Bates' Any Woman, Any Where),
which take the same idea, but leave it a little more open to
interpretation. I think it is critical that the compliment itself be
as subtle and as nourishing as possible. I've tested this with
telling a woman that she is gorgeous, or lovely, or stunning, but
I've never found anything that gets as consistenly positive and
comfortable responses as cute. I think there's some deep psychology
and subtle social cue stuff at work here. If you tell a woman you do
not know how beautiful she is, she takes that compliment as an
offering to her altar. She may appreciate it, but all it says about
you is that you are a man who notices beautiful women. And for some
women, who are not totally comfortable with their own beauty
(especially those who's self image does not map to their
appearance… the MSE or LSE girls), this compliment actually
confuses them, and makes them very defensive. They react as if they
are waiting for the punchline, like when they were plain and
unlovely back in grade school and some asshole kid wrote her a
valentine and then laughed at her with all his asshole friends when
she confessed her crush on him.

You are not an asshole. You are a man. A man notices things about
women that the assholes don't, and understands what is most
important to women. What is most important to them is NOT to be
beautiful, or stunning, or hot, or spectacular, or any other
bullshit come-on they've already heard. What matters most to them…
what they dream of every night, is that someone cares for them.
Someone will protect them. Nurture them. Hold them close and enjoy
them for who they are… a cute girl. All women want to be loved
like little sisters, as Tyler wrote, but I think there's a deeper
level. They want to be loved like daughters. They all want someone
to allow them to drop their shields and see through to the little
girl who loves puppies and ice cream and sunday mornings lazing in
bed in fluffy pajamas. When you tell her that you see how cute she
is, this is what she hears. Finally, someone notices the girl that
was always there.

There's lots more to say on this topic, especially on how to follow
this opener with consistency and intent, but for now, that's it. I
encourage everyone to at least experiment with this direct, natural,
warm approach, and see what happens. See what responses you get. See
how many smiles you create. Hell, see if you don't find yourself
smiling a little knowing that you have the ability, really and
genuinely, to create a little more joy in the world.

And really, isn't that the highest motivation for us all? Remember,
always leave her better than you found her.