Size Matters, but not the way you think

Size Matters (but not the way you think)
Outline of presentation from the Physical Confidence workshop (coming soon on DVD)

How Big Are You?

• Your physical presence is NOT limited by your physical size

• It is determined by how you present yourself

– The most intimidating guy I ever met was half my size

• So how do you find out how big you are now?

– Pay attention to how people react to you when you approach

– When? Not just in clubs… ALL the time with EVERYBODY

• OK, now you know… But CAN YOU BE BIGGER?

Modeling (Not the Zoolander Kind)

• Find best version of yourself, not someone you are not

• Be as big and strong a presence as you can be

• Find someone with similar size who commands authority, then observe and model them – Short and sturdy? Model Mel Gibson

– Tall and thin? Model Tommy Lee

– Big and sexy? Then maybe you too can be as cool as Sean!

Announce your Presence with Authority

• Stand tall – Avoid the “shy girl slouch”

– Shoulders back and chin up

• Take up space, but do so with grace

• Slow down!!! More Swayze, less Farley. How Do I Work It?

• Find fun activities where you move in powerful, graceful ways

• Examples

– Surfing, snowboarding, skateboarding

– Dancing (salsa, ballroom, etc.)

– Sprints or plyometric training

– Powerlifting

– Swimming

– Any group classes at your gym (kickboxing, hip-hop, yoga, etc.)

• Be physical and be in your body all the time — pay attention to how you move every day (walking, standing, sitting, etc.)

Taking Up Space with Grace

• A big presence draws attention – Be aware that when you enter a room, everyone knows

• Girls may be a little afraid when you approach

– Let them see you coming and just be cool

– you do not need to intimidate anyone

• Stand beside people when talking to them – Make it seem like a friendly aside

– you are generous with your authority, not overbearing

• Move with grace and playful gentleness

– You are a big, cuddly bear

Moving and Touching

• Open and playful, but deliberate

– Slow and low, that is the tempo

• Be very gentle – If you are a physically powerful man who also has a gentle touch, you will TURN WOMEN ON

• You are the Daddy who is playful, but loves and protects his little girl

– Yes, it’s dirty and it’s wrong, but it works! Be Tons of Fun

• Always be laughing and smiling

– Tell yourself jokes like “Chuck Norris doesn’t need pickup lines. He just says ‘Now.’”

• Role-play out of character

– Pretend she is stronger than you

• Have her beat you at thumb wrestling and say “ow!”

• Big bear hugs! Side hugs, full hugs, lift-her-off-the-ground hugs. Everyone loves hugs

• The friendly pat on the ass

– Like a football player patting a teammate

– Wooderson in Dazed and Confused
For a Real Challenge…

• Fireman’s Carry – Up over the shoulder (and in perfect position for a spanking)

– Works even better if you tell her you ARE a fireman!

• Estonian-style wife carrying

– Not recommended as an opener * * unless it’s last call at the bar Final Thoughts

• Always Have Fun – Smile, you big goof! 

• Girls expect you to be the big man in charge, so accept it and enjoy it

• Be the jolly, fun guy everyone loves

• Yes, you heard that right – When in doubt, just pretend you’re Santa Claus

- Sean