Situational Openers Made Easy
I have basically four types of openers that I use during the day.
First, there is the Movie Moment Opener, which I have written
about previously.
It's by far the most powerful (and the simplest), but you've really
got to be on your game and "own it" for it to work.
Then there is my "backpocket" opener. This is a simple tried and
true opener that always works when I need to whip it out of my back
pocket - real quick like.
These openers can be VERY simple:
"Hey, what's up?" is a great opener for lot's of guys, for example.
Or you can ask her for the time, for directions, or for a simple
piece of advice to get her to stop and talk to you.
These quick "Backpocket" openers all work the same way, just use
one you like.
The trick with the Backpocket openers is to make sure you follow up
with a quick banter line to spice up the conversation.
Then there is my "Tried and True" openers: These are for the
situations I find my self in every day like the gym, the
supermarket, the sidewalk, etc.
Since I'm in those environments a lot, over time I've developed
specific ways to start conversations in these environments so I can
join in the conversation already going on in her head.
That means she will be in her most receptive state - She was
thinking about what you are talking about already, so she will find
it easy to absorb what you have to say.
You didn't interrupt her and start a conversation, you just joined
in and made it a lot more fun.
Big difference.
Finally we have the 'Situational Opener' - which is basically just
relaxing and making something up on the spot as if you were
talking to a friend.
I call it a situational opener, because when I do it I usually end
up saying something about the situation we are in.
Maybe we are in a line at the airport, sitting down at the DMV, or
at a U2 concert. These are situations that occupy our mind when we
are in them, and if we want to join the conversation in her mind
then it's best if we talk about them - right from the beginning.
Situational Openers are my favorite, because it is by far the
most natural and simple way to start a conversation.
That means you are at your best.
The also relate to a situation that is fairly unique, at least for
you… so you are generally more enthusiastic about what you are
talking about.
That means you're trying something new, which means you are fully
engaged and in the moment.
At it's absolute best you go up to women having absolutely NO idea
what you are going to say to women, but with complete confidence
the answer will come to when you need it.
It's as if you know, almost by magic, that the perfect thing will
come out of your mouth at the perfect time.
This may sound like something you can't do consistently, but the
truth is in workshop every guy finds themselves doing exactly that
with no problem.
If your in the right state, anyone can do it consistently.
(By the way, you can learn more about our workshops at
www.pickup101.com/schedule )
The PROBLEM with situational openers is that if you aren't in BEST
possible state you might find this hard to do - I know I did for
several years when I was getting started.
So how do you come up with a unique line for an unusual situation
you are in?
There are lot's of ways, but one of my favorites is one that my
friend David Wygant talks about in our recent interview together.
He tells the story of being with a student who didn't know what to
say to a girl eating a tuna fish sandwich.
David just asked his student the question "What are you thinking
RIGHT NOW?"
The student said, "I wonder how the tuna fish is?"
To the students horror, David said, "Okay, go ask her."
It just seemed too simple to David's skeptical student, but it
worked great in the end because it was genuine, in-the-moment, and
because he was just joining the conversation already going on in
the woman's head.
David's student even got a free bite of the sandwich for his trouble.
When I heard this story I realized that key question - What are
you thinking right now? - is what really gives birth to all
situational openers.
It's a question you can ask yourself in unique situations to make
your openers sparkle.
For example, last weekend my flight was delayed, but they didn't
realize it until they started to let us onto the plane.
We were all standing in line, and just a little bit annoyed at not
knowing if how long we would be there.
I noticed a hottie in front of me, and saw that she was reading a
small book and was almost through it.
I thought, "Man, with the way things are going she should have
brought 'War and Peace' to read".
Without missing a beat, I walked up to her. When she looked up at
me I dryly nodded at her book and said "Maybe you should have
brought 'War and Peace'"
As she laughed, I touched her arm, looked suspiciously, and said.
"Actually, I just came to cut in line…" and I stood next to her as
if we were a couple.
She giggled so I nudged her a bit and said "Shhh… Just act cool"
Now of course the people around us could hear what was going on,
but they were all so amused no one complained.
And we had a great time flirting while waiting for the flight.
Good times!
And it all came from that simple question… "What are you thinking
right now?"
Now go meet some women,
Your friend,
Lance Mason
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