She Bought Him a $100 Dinner
There are a lot of guys who hear about PickUp 101 and get really excited about it. They think it's a great idea.
Some of them even come up to me at one of my Intro Seminars, and tell me what a great thing we are doing for our fellow man.
But when I ask them when they plan to sign up for a workshop so they can get the choice with women they deserve, all they can do is tell me the reasons it's great for others, but not for them.
I hear stuff like this.
"OK, the Surefire Attraction Secrets CDs were great, and I'd love to take a workshop, and learn how to banter and meet the women I want and attract them, but seriously…"
Or they get more specific, and confess what's really on their minds.
"You don't get it. I was married for 20 years. She divorced me. I haven't been on a date since the 1980s. I just don't think this will work for me. Sorry."
The sad thing is, when they say sorry, they aren't saying it to me. They are saying it to themselves.
And it still happens too much. Maybe it sounds like someone you know.
It sounds like a guy I know. Or, at least, it used to. Now, he never said these exact words to me. But when I met him that first day of Art of Attraction and heard his story, I knew what the conversation in his head sounded like.
It took so much courage for him just to make it to the workshop. I could see his eyes close and his head drop down, like he was focusing so intently on something inside, when he tried to talk and banter.
He was determined to make it work, but he was terrified it wouldn't. But I wasn't.
I could see who he really was inside. I could see the man who kept a marriage alive for 20 years, the man who built a business of his own, and had the strength and courage and trust to take this chance to live the life he always dreamed of.
I could see the attractive, naturally charismatic and charming man trying to hide from me. But he didn't get to hide for long.
He spent the entire weekend opening up bit by bit, telling stories from his own life, smiling, using his body to let his natural physical confidence out.
Women started to open up to him, and then the banter started. He teased them gently and got them smiling. He started to get this glow about him at the bar.
It was like watching him take off the armor piece-by-piece, and revealing the great guy underneath.
He'd been there all along, and now he was out for good.
But I still wondered when the weekend was over, would he keep it up? I mean, he had 20 years and a divorce to train him to hide away, and just one short weekend to remind him how to let the charm flow. What was going to happen when he headed home?
I guess I'll let him tell you that one himself.
"Thanks again for all your hard work over the weekend. I feel very different in a great way about how I go through my day here. I really connected with some of the material. Been listening to the storytelling cd again (from Surefire Attraction Secrets).
Makes a lot more sense hearing it after the weekend. Keep up the great work.
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I forgot to mention a potentially disatrous meeting, that ended with me saying 'we don't care how much you want to charge us for your stuff, we want it.' Then a handshake wouldn't do, we had to hug.
I wonder how that would have went if I hadn't been in such a great state.
Oh yeah, and my ex-girlfriend and I had the most amazing talk last night as well. I couldn't quite believe what was hearing come out of my mouth.
Tools for creating a great life. Amazing.
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Actually this week has been getting better and better. Check this out….A young lady who has worked for me for 3 years took me to dinner tonight, at my favorite restaurant. I would rate her a 9. She is 30 yrs old, I am well…older.
I had a great time with her while waiting for our table, including opening a mixed 3 set (also waiting) and inviting myself to join them for dinner, getting everyone laughing. like who is this guy.
My friend and I got a prime table at the restaurant, I bantered with the host and hostess on our way in, and then with the waitress, The waitress, Elizabeth, later asked the chef/owner, whom I had said hello to earlier, "who is that guy at table 51?," because she was enjoying us so much.
We had a fabulous meal, bottle of wine, and the waitress at the end of the meal, thanked me for being so much fun and making her night. She has a killer smile and was just beaming.
While I was in the bathroom, my friend paid the check, which was well over $100.00, and then thanked me for the best time she had had in a long time. Mighty fine. Just another ho-hum day in my new life. (I'm kidding)
I can't recall anything quite that sweet happening in recent memory.
I have been having so much fun this week. Thanks again to you and everyone at the workshop.
Eric, Wisconsin"
Now THAT'S a happy ending.
We all will face challenges in life. We all have doubts. And we all wonder if just maybe the good life just isn't in the cards for us.
It would be a little easier just to give up and settle for ordinary, wouldn't it? Just get used to disappointment and find someway to pass the time. Some guys get really good at it.
But Eric didn't settle for that. He had his doubts, but he made a decision, and he challenged himself to live a better life. And now he is.
It's your turn to challenge yourself.
