Openers for Art of Attraction
Here's a list of sample openers (hook questions and optional follow-up stories) that you can use for the Art of Attraction workshop. The openers all are designed to start a conversation with groups and give you something interesting and fun to talk about at any time. Find one you like and practice using it to talk to groups everywhere you go.
Intructor-field-tested Hook Questions that Go Straight to Banter
Settle this bet for me, ok?
If you KNOW you will never get caught, is it cheating?
Guys, quick question. What's hotter: a tattoo, or a piercing?
Do you guys know any good places to dance around here?
Guys. I have a really important question for you. Like, fate of the world stuff. You ready? Bacon? Or ham?
OK, I need help settling this argument.
Guys or girls: who kisses better?
Hook Questions with Optional Stories
Hey guys, Brad or Angelina? Or Jen or Angelina?
Optional story: Check this out. Most women with boyfriends say they'd sleep with brad pitt. But even more said they'd sleep with angelina. i asked my ex about this, and she's like hell yeah! if i have a boyfriend, why do i want to sleep with another guy. that's like you've got dreyers in the fridge and you get some ben and jerry's. but angelina, that's like champagne, chocolate, and shoe shopping all at once.
You guys are California girls, right?
Optional story: You notice no one out here has an accent? I love living here but I miss accents. Like when I lived in Boston. Met this girl. Our eyes met and it was like a thunderbolt. We talked and hung out all night. Beautiful. Smart. Funny. Sexy. But… She had the thickest Boston accent evah. We fell totally in love and it was amazing. And I even got used to the accent. Except in bed. Nothing kills the mood like hearing "hahdah, hahdah, fastah, fastah… oh my fackin' gawd!"
You guys ever travel someplace that was way cooler than you expected?
Optional story: I just got back from Russia. And it's amazing. All the guys are rich mobsters, and all the girls are Anna Kornikovas. And man, do they know how to party and drink. Its vodka all day. 2 shots for breakfast. 4 shots for lunch. And a baker's dozen for dinner every night. Plus, it's like each shot is personal. This is your my country. This is to the friendship comrade. This is to our mothers. What you gonna say to that? Fuck your mother? Plus, every grandmother there can drink you under the table and drive you home.
Hey, settle this argument for me. Would you hook up with someone who's just a friend?
Optional story: Check this out. My friend Jen is in this dating slump, right? Like 6 weeks. Not happy about it. She's out the other night and runs into this guy she's known forever. And she's like "he looked cute, and he was making me laugh, and it's been a while…" Y'know, just a hookup, no big deal. "But then. Next morning. I hear this knock. I open the door, and there he is." He's like, "This is really hard to say, cos I really care about you and your feelings." And she's so relieved that he's there to explain it's no big deal, right? Then he says "but I have to tell you this, no matter how hard it is. I… have been in love with you for years, and now we get to start the rest of our lives together…" OMG, you guys are so mean! I can't believe you're laughing at his pain.
What's better for a bachelorette party, male strippers, or female strippers?
Optional story: Check this out. My friend is planning a bachelorette party, and she was gonna get the standard big studly stripper dude, like the cop who shows up at the door and tells them to quiet down, and then peels down to his oiled chest and banana hammock. But, yknow, women are way more turned on by naked women than naked men. Like you. I can tell. I'm gonna tell my friend just to get some chicks. Even though it will cost me the gig.
Hey guys, what was your favorite movie as a kid?
Optional story: Awesome, check this out. Me and my girl are looking through the stacks and she picks up Dirty Dancing. I'm like, uh, no, "nobody puts baby in the corner!" and pick up Unfaithful. Yeah, that movie. It's hot, right? So she's all like pouting, going "but this was my favorite movie as a little girl," and I'm like "well, little girl, don't you think it's time for a big girl movie?" It's never about the movie, right? You really don't want to just… watch. And y'know, hot as it is, Swayze just doesn't do it for me.
Guys. Guys! You ever ride a dolphin?
Optional story: Awesome! High Five for that. Check this. My ex was at sea world and they have this thing where you can ride the dolphins. So she’s all stoked tries it. She jumps in, and the dolphin like whooshes her thru the water by pushing her ass with its nose. But when they’re done, the dolphins all rubbing against her. And it’s got a great big hard on. The trainer had to jump in and like chase it away with a whiffle bat. Stupid dolphin. That’s the last time she falls for that trick.
P.S. - If you want to learn ALL my secrets of how to playfully banter, have fun flirting, and seductive storytelling, then you'll want to check out my Charismatic Conversations Take-Home Training program.
5 Responses to “Openers for Art of Attraction”
Hilarious stories, but keep this in mind.
I met this hot hot hottie at this like historic walking tour thing the other day. (which I recommend any tour for day game because you can banter other people while she watches your alpha-ness, and she's pretty much stuck their until the end of the tour).
So we hit it off and I build a time-bridge to meet later. After a half bottle of wine she tells me how she was out the night before and 2 sets of guys at 2 different places come up to her and her friend and do the 'jealous girlfriend' bit from the book 'The Game'. She said it was almost word for word and one guy was old and the other young…
SO GUYS! Don't use this canned stuff…the real hot girls will hear this before and you'll get blown out.
By San Francisco Night Life
Good story, and very instructive for guys to keep in mind.
Remember it's more about how you communicate than what you say. Yes, you do want to be confident in having something fun and interesting to say, and that's why even a canned story can really help you get going.
But even totally original, excellent material can fall flat. You can't just tell a story or run a routine like you read it. You need to get into a conversation and make it your own.
For a great example of what I mean, rent "The Aristocrats." Dozens of comedians tell this terrible old joke over and over again, but because they tell it with their own personality, you never get tired of hearing it.
Express your personality with your words and don't worry so much about whether or not it's totally original. I mean, Jealous Girlfriend isn't even that old… hell, I open girls with "what's your sign" and it has yet to get me a bad reaction.
It's all in how you do it.
By Sean
its really smart. got to start practicing immediately!!!!!!!!
By Vitalis
um, aren't you forgetting it's not the words?!!!
it's who's saying them!!
if a guy walks up with the confidence sex appeal and humor of jack nicholson (random example) and blurts out a 'jealous girlfriend' opener (or ANY 'opener' for that matter), do you think it makes one iota of difference that she's heard of it before?
no!
you're not being evaluated on the content or originality of your story. and the only reason for having 'hooks' is because the peson themselves is not confident, sexy and interesting enough in their own right.
these stories are training wheels for guys that don't yet have the right frame (i.e. believeing, knowing without ANY doubt you are good with women). the story is not that important in the grand scheme, but getting the right frame IS the grand scheme.
it's what's in you head, not what comes out of your mouth. and in the case those two things are in disagreement, you've got a case of incongruence.
if you get into the right frame chances are you're not going to be saying anything that will ruin your chances, even if she's heard it a million times.
By oobe
No one's life should be so dull and hollow that he needs to borrow someone else's stories or make them up out of whole cloth. If you truly lack stories that interest women, then the solution is simple: Get out there and live!
Having a life rich in adventure and experience will do wonders to boost your confidence.
By Seer