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New Year's Success Story #1 - We Should Just Get It Over And Have Sex

Hey Lance,

I think I'd prefer to keep my location a secret, given the personal and professional issues that could arise, but I did want to take the time to let you know how my New Year's went because I know that you like hearing about successes.  I went for, and accomplished, something that many in the community think impossible - I converted a friend into a hook-up.
 
It all started over 3.5 YEARS ago when she invited me over to a party her friend was having.  The signals were painfully obvious, but I couldn't man-up enough to escalate the situation.  Since then I was pretty much branded a friend, and we only see each other once every couple of months.  Now at the time that we met, I was not involved in the community, but I began learning pickup a little while afterwards (she was not the reason.  lol).
 
I'd moved on and dated plenty girls since, but there was always that feeling, one I'm sure you recognize, the remorse of the "one who got away."  She contacted me New Year's Eve to see what I had planned, as her friends that she was going to go out with decided to go somewhere that she didn't want to, so I invited her to come out with a couple people I was meeting.
 
When we got to the bar I kept things light, just a lot of banter and vibing, plus the occasional kino advance.  I also would take off from time to time and socialize with some people I knew, and then also some that I didn't.  I suppose I was doing some push/pull and building my social value through people in the bar, if you want to take the time to look back and rationalize. 
 

I stepped outside for a minute to call one of my female friends and tell her happy new year while the girl I went with was in the bathroom.  She came outside and found me on the phone, and then after I got off the phone asked who it was, and I told her.  She gave me this look and asked, "So, is that your booty call?"  I tried to re-frame a little by calling her out on the look she was giving me, but she said that she wasn't giving me a look (as she was still giving the look.  lol) and asked again if that was my booty call.
 
Noticing the jealousy, I decided to do what I should've done 3.5 years ago . . . I grabbed the back of her neck and kissed her . . . and she kissed me back. 

Now here's where things took an unexpected turn for the better!  I pulled away and she had this almost stunned look on her face and she said that whenever she thought of us, it reminded her of two characters on Dawson's Creek (I've never watched it, so sorry about not knowing who the characters are.  lol), and how there was an unresolved sexual tension between us.
 
I agreed, and then she said, "You know, we should just get it over and have sex."  I've had propositions, but this was probably the most direct.  haha.  I kept my cool and simply said, "Ok."  She asked if I was serious and I said, "Yes."  She then asked if I had a condom with me and I said I didn't, and then she suggested stopping after we left the bar to pick some up.
 
I think you can take it from there , but I did want to take the time to let you know how my New Year's went, and I wanted to thank you for everything that you've done, and continue to do. 

There is a way out of the friend zone!  I've been seeing a couple other girls lately, and will continue to do so, and I'm not really sure where my story with her will lead, but if nothing else, I finally made up for what my AFC self couldn't do years ago, and I owe it to men like yourself. 

Thanks again, and best wishes for the new year!
 
Charlie

Note:  Charlie is not a PickUp 101 instructor or staff member