Learn How to Vibe!
"I just can't keep it up! No matter how hard I
try, I lose it when it matters the most!!!"
It's a common problem.
More common than you think.
And no, for this problem, Viagra does not help.
See, I'm talking about running out of things to say.
Guys can read an e-book, or check out Surefire Attraction Secrets
to get the real things Naturals say to get a girl smiling and attracted,
and then can get good at opening a group and getting them smiling.
But then they know they have to keep talking in a fun and
interesting way, and don't know how to do it.
The answer is called Vibing.
Vibing is a way of talking to a whole group that gets the
comfortable with you and trusting you. Like when you meet a new
person, they share a little something about themselves you can
relate to, and you think "hey, he seems like a good guy."
That's your goal with Vibing. Just relate and let the group think
"he seems like a good guy."
Done properly, this makes it very easy to get to real rapport in
one-on-one with the girl you like.
So what are the steps and keys to vibing?
1) After you have them laughing, choose one girl from group get
side by side with girl you like the most while saying to the group
"I like this girl. Can I keep her."
This makes the girls comfortable, because they know which one you
like, and it makes you comfortable, because now you are in as part
of a couple.
2) Now vibe with whole group. Small talk.
Here's the Six-step brain-dead simple structure for vibing:
1. Key is always to make connections between you and them. "Yes and,"
not "No, but"
2. Ask small talk question
3. Get their response
4. Echo back their response, and either relate with something you know
about it, or confess you don't know about it, and ask what it's like
5. Share your answer to the question and relate it back to them in
emotionally relevant terms
6. Keep it fun!!!
Example of Vibing:
Standard Small talk question, "where are you from?"
They answer, "we're from Tuscany."
You reply with an echo back to show you listened to their answer,
and invite them to share a little more. "Oh, you're from Tuscany. I
know nothing about Tuscany. Is it a cool place? They have good ice
cream, right?"
Have your answers ready to each of these questions. You answer is
just a conversational thread that you relate back to them.
For example:
I'm from Tottenham.
Huge fan of Spurs football club.
They're good, but they never ever win.
Every year, I think this is the year.
You know what it's like when you keep hoping for something, even
tho you know it will never happen?
Llet the girls react)
Like you're waiting for your boyfriend to buy you a ring?
That's what it's like, but its fun. like, every year, new hope.
Every year, I wait for the ring, and I never get it, but I love
them anyways.
3) Continue to Vibe with group for as long it's going well.
4) When you're done vibing, turn to the girl you like, and say,
"let me ask you a question" and turn your body slightly away from
the group.
5) Then go into rapport.
See, vibing isn't this complex, tricky skill that requires years
of practice before you try it on your own.
Like everything else, it takes some careful instruction and
modeling to get right. Start on your own, and then find someone
better than you at it to help you get it right.
Your friend,
Lance Mason
P.S. Now you've got the vibing down, but how do you move from small
talk to sexy fun times? Check out the Art of Rapport workshop
and learn to connect with her in a way that makes it just
natural for you and her to end up in bed.
