Inner Game, Outer Game, & Vibing
Lance,
You are definitely an inspiration to me and I can't thank you enough for all that you have done.
I used to be that wussy and when ever I liked a girl i would always screw it, and I couldn't figure out why girls weren't attracted to me. It really made me feel like I wasn't a MAN.
But now I have an awesome girl and some others also fighting for me. It really is about one's inner game.
Thank you!
My question is this, now I'm working on my outer game and I need advice on making friends with guys that are good with women. where can I find them? how do can I become their friends? I know this isn't dating but any advice would be great help.
You and Sean are awesome!
David
Hi David,
I also thought your question was very interesting and other guys would benefit, so here's my take on it.
First thing… there isn't a line separating inner game and outer game. In fact when you have solid inner game, it should literally radiate from you.
What you THINK and FEEL has a direct impact on your body language, your voice, and how comfortable you are with using kino.
This is called 'confidence' and women respond to it like kids respond to candy. They can't get enough of a confident man.
This is why the men called 'naturals' do very little of 'outer game'. Their confident way of being is naturally at tractive and women will be magnetically drawn to it.
Learning outer game should also have the reverse effect, and help to build your confidence. I refer to learning stories and routines as "training wheels" for a man to help him learn to be relaxed and 'natural'.
Which leads to your question about making friends with 'the naturals' so you can learn from them.
Making friends with anyone is all about 'vibing'. Vibing is a rapport skill and is where you find shared experiences while talking to someone.
It's kinda hard to explain in print, but the good news is you already know how to do this. You do it with your friends all the time.
What most guys don't do, is be relaxed enough to vibe with strangers.
We teach you exactly how to do this in the Art of Rapport workshop.
And I'll let you in on a little secret… vibing is useful for connecting with people in every part of your life.
Learn to vibe and you can make friends with ANYONE. Just think how useful that would be.
As for finding naturals, they are everywhere you go. You just have to be socially aware enough to spot them. They don't usually where a sign. 
Now go meet some women!
Cheers,
Lance Mason
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