How to Lead A Woman In Seduction
Q: Hey Sean,
I saw this in one of your online posts recently:
"She may be shy, but that just means you have to lead confidently, and gently, more. She's not supposed to offer more than her lips. You warm her up to more. Remember, you have to lead all the way, every step, all the time. It's hard to adjust to, but you're getting it."
OK, I have heard this before, but I'm still not exactly clear on what this means in concrete terms when it comes to seduction. When I think of leading someone, I think of doing something first so that they can follow. But, in terms of leading sexually, this idea doesn't seem to work any more… For example: "hey, watch me rub my own tits … OK, now lets try with you" 
So, concretely, what do you mean when you say lead confidently and gently?
A: Sure. Instead of going for a kiss on the street and getting nothing but her lips, and deciding that means she's telling you to stop, interpret it as you haven't done enough yet to warm her up. Invite her in for a second to see this cool thing. Figure out what's getting in the way of where you want to go, backtrack, and get there another way.
In this case, if I went for kiss #2 and got closed lips, I would try to move to somewhere more private (girls HATE Public Displays of Affection), and try to warm up her body slowly so she would want to kiss me. That's where simple sensual things like a big warm hug, stroking her hair, tracing a finger along her cheek, jawline, or ear, sniffing at her neck slowly and deeply, smelling her hair, pulling her hair gently but firmly…
All these things are much more subtle than a kiss, but awaken her senses, and make her more responsive to a kiss. Plus, there's more intimacy and power in standing inches away from a girl and looking calmly in her eyes while you stroke her hair.
In terms of seduction, leading does not mean you go first and ask her to follow. It means you start along the path to open her sensuality and make it easy for her to follow. Her lips are tight and she's not relaxed? Relax her body and her lips will follow.
Sean
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