PickUp 101

Field Report: Without Words

Just because the East Coast Dream Team left SF behind doesn't mean there aren't amazing instructors in the Bay. Check out the workshops run by Walter Yu, Sean Deacon, Niels Hoven, Daniel Johnson and Jeff Hanson to see what I mean. These are men who got more game than Parker Brothers.

And then there's the next generation. One of my good friends Hristiyan, also known as the original Captain Jack, has been terrorizing San Francisco the last few months with his smooth style, and a prop liberated from Office Max. If you think you know the limits of pickup, you don't know anything till you hear how he does it Without Words.

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Everyone that knows me or reads my blog knows that I am all about seduction.

I even wrote a post on my blog about how to approach women without saying a word, and how words get in the way.

I have a story from last night to back it all up.

I met the cutest Japanese girl ever and she spoke no more then 5 words of English.

OK let me start from the beginning!

A lot of people talk about peacocking and I agree that if you go to high-energy club you do need to be peacocked because it is so hard to get attention if you are not. I like to do it in ways that are a little different, in this particular case I had a little laser pointer.

I was waiting in line to get in to the club with Walter, Paul and Dinko, and we were all like, “where are all the girls?” After a few minutes I see one I liked across the street so I use my laser pointer to get her attention. I got it and she loved it.

Later in the night I see her inside and I use the laser again and as soon as she see it I let her now that I am the man behind the magical laser and now I just have to go talk to her.

The very first thing I hear from her is “ I don't speak English” to which I reply “even better” (I don't think she understood that).

She was with 2 more guys that pull her right out of my hands, but I go outside and there she is.

I cannot let it just slip away like that so I go in and start talking to the guys first, but I do get to her.

If it wasn't for Walter and my very good friend Dinko who came and winged me I couldn't have had this happen for me. (love you guys) They came in and start talking to the guys so I could be all alone with her.

She really liked me and here body language made it obvious, but she was very cautious in front of her friends.

We try to make a small talk a bit with her friends, but I see that she will not let herself go while her friends are there, so I just decided to stay with her until her friends go inside the club.

The only thing I did that would consider as a routine in anyway was something I got from the book “The Game”:

Earlier in the evening we talk to big bacheloret party and they were wearing red hats and red bandannas so I got one of there red bandannas. I took my bandanna of my head and give to the Japanese girl, she love it so much that she give me her necklace.

After few more min her friends went in and now I had a green light.

I just want to point out that to this moment we haven't talk about anything exciting (at least not with words). Everything that we have talked about up to this moment was very small talk like in the lines of “where you form and what you doing here?”

I pointing this out for all the guys out there that are looking for the magic bullet. THERE IS NOT ONE.

It is not what you say, it is how you say it. I cannot stress that enough.

No let me put it in other words so that you can understand it better. It is not what your mouth is saying is what your body and soul are saying.

Since I don't speak Japanese and she does not speak English all we have left is the language of love (my favorite, in which I am fluent ;))

Now we are alone so I just pull her close and start kissing her.

It was so good and so hot it was beautiful.

Since we both cannot use many words we try to experience each other in other ways and that made it so much more.

This is what I mean by saying words just get on the way.

The sad part is that she had to go back to Japan in the very next morning.

She did text me as soon as she got to Japan and said,

“Come back to Japan

Every times remember you

I miss you

My heart for you”

I don't know if should share so much but I will just to show that you can have a very strong connection with someone without saying much.

It was very beautiful interaction and very powerful. She got to me. She touched me.

I think this was all possible because we were able to communicate so much more to each other without words.