Video Field Report Friday: Do Guys Ever Do WORSE at a Workshop?
Next week I’m going to be making a HUGE announcement that involves myself, Eric, and New York City. Stay tuned for the details.
In the meantime today’s Field Report Friday comes to use from our head instructor Eric Disco and all the students who just went through his Art of Rapport workshop in New York last weekend March 28th – 30th.
As always, the workshop was a huge success thanks to all the men who stepped up and faced there fears – even when things were NOT going so well.
I’ll let Eric take it away:
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"This is the most important part of the weekend," I say to the students in the Art of Rapport workshop.
Now comes the time when we brag about how awesome we did." One student is not doing awesome.
Or at least he feels that way.
We just spent the last four hours going around Manhattan trying to meet women in different locations: bookstores, cafe's, supermarkets, records stores, in parks and just walking down the sidewalk.
"I'm actually doing worse," Mark says. "I've gotten phone numbers from women before, but today I didn't get any.
It's like I was so nervous, maybe I was putting too much pressure on myself."
This bragging session truly is the most important part of the weekend. It's not because I want the guys to think they had a better experience than they really did.
It's good to be honest with yourself. It is the most important part of the weekend because it's where we learn to appreciate our victories.
When you have a great day out there trying to meet women, you don't need anyone to tell you to buck up and keep going. You feel great. There is no better feeling.
It's those days when it seems like you aren't making progress that you need to appreciate yourself.
"Massive Support," as we say in Pickup 101. By getting out there and challenging yourself, you are making progress, no matter how small the increments, even if it seems like you are going backwards on some days.
Going around the circle, the students take turns and talk about their experiences. Zaid, who is a master at banter and night game, talks about how difficult it is for him to tone it down and actually connect with a girl.
"What you did is brave," I tell Zaid. "If this were tennis, you'd have an amazing backhand. And instead of going to your backhand, you worked on your forehand, something you're not as good at."
And it's true.
It's not easy to do something you're not as good at. Some of us are really good at some things. Maybe you're an expert computer programmer. Or a surgeon, like one of the guys in our class. Or you are good at making money.
It's not easy to go back to kindergarten and learn something you're not as good at, like meeting women. It takes a brave man to learn something he's not good at.
By the time we get back around to Mark, I can see his posture has changed. He's already looking over the day with a different light, doing the most important thing possible, which is appreciating himself.
The next day we go out… and he's an animal. He meets a fantastic girl and goes on an instant date with her. He puts all the tools he learned in the workshop, both day game and rapport, to good use.
Makin' me proud!
And he wasn't the only one to have breakthroughs. All the guys, at all different levels, had phenomenal experiences. A confident Asian American guy, who had difficulty making himself vulnerable ended up on an coffee date with a girl who is one of the most beautiful I've seen on the streets of New York.
Other guys, who had never approached a woman before, ended up with phone numbers and amazing experiences with beautiful women. All because they were willing to take that first step.
Think you have the courage to take that first brave step? Sign up for Pickup 101's Art of Rapport workshop today.
-Eric Disco
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Thanks Eric, and thanks to all the men who stepped up and faced there fears last weekend.
Now go meet some women this weekend!
-Lance Mason
P.S. – Here are some comments from last weekend’s New York attendee’s
"I chose Pickup 101 because they teach natural confidence and bring out the attractive man inside. I wasn't able to approach women at night before I took the Art of Attraction and it was life-changing. Then I noticed that I have the same issue, which is not being able to approach at day and build good rapport. Taking AoR was the perfect solution. Eric is an amazing teacher and great mentor. He added so much to my night game in AoA and I can see the same "Aha's" in day game. He game me so many specific comments that were very effective and direct to the point.
It was really great what the coaches taught me. You guys taught me things and I put it all together. I approached this girl on the subway train on the way home. She asked me what I do and I told her a story that was really short but effective and connecting. It was really engaging and she really liked it. And I was only talking about computer programming, which is a turn off for most girls! And she was really engaged. Then we talked about childhood and we connected with how she moved from Manhattan into Jersey and all the feelings it brought. It was great, it was such a great interaction. When I asked for her number, I just opened my phone and gave it to her. She said "What's that?" I said "This is this new invention, people use it to communicate. It's called a phone." She laughed. And said "What do you want me to do?" I said "Just put your number in there." She said "You're so bold!" I said "I'm just a guy, I liked you, you're cool, I'm not going to miss out on this opportunity." I said "I promise I'll only call you night and day and day and night and breathe into your ear. It's gonna be fun." And she just laughed as she put her number in."
-Zaid E, New Jersey
"I approached an Asian girl in Barnes and Noble and we talked for about 30 minutes. She was sitting on the floor, which was a challenge. But I had done it twice before with less success. I asked her a few questions about the book she was reading and it was ON. She basically shared her life story and I listened to her intently. Once in a while, I would interrupt her and say or share something. When I decided to leave, she stopped me and asked me for my Facebook contact. Then she kept talking and later asked me what were my dreams. Our conversation ended soon after on a positive note. The coaches were very knowledgeable and persuasive. I liked that they gently pushed me to approach. I needed it."
-Sam M, Ontario
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P.P.S. – If you like the video blog format let us know in the comment section and we'll try to do more.
