I’ve buried this in other posts before but it deserves its own post. I do this often and it’s an incredibly powerful move. Use it before you kiss her, but after you know she’s at least thought about it.
You: “hold still, I want to try something.”
Her: “xxx”
Stand or sit face to face with her. Put your hand on the back of her head gently but firmly if possible– watch how she reacts to your hand. Now move your heads/lips closer and closer, slowly, until you’re about an inch away. If she figits tell her to relax and hold still. You’re moving very slowly so it’s not threatening. Now back up a little to where your eyes can focus on each others. Stay like this for 10+ seconds.
You haven’t risked rejection because you didn’t actually try anything. Use this line if you need to smooth anything over:
“I read that when you get so close to each other you can tell instantly if there’s chemistry between you, I was just checking.”
Here’s some of what I’ll do next:
If she tries to kiss you, pull away playfully. Explain you were just checking on something; bust her for trying to kiss you. Now you know she wants to kiss you and you can play with the anticipation.
If you think she wants to kiss you but makes no move, move in like you’re going to kiss her finally then pull away/pull aside at the last minute. Make playful sounds like you wanted to or almost did.
If you really can’t tell, use the line about checking on chemistry then see what she thinks. Then say something like, “I don’t know, I thought I might have sensed something… but maybe you just scared me a little (playfully.)”
Whatever happens it’s a great way to get things moving into the physical realm, whether anything happens or not.
Have fun and if you use it let me know how it goes…
Game on!
Wilder
