PickUp 101

Direct And 'Intense Movie Moment Direct', PickUp 101 Style

This is a topic I've been thinking of since I've been working more and more in the field. There are two basic approaches that I will use that you can call direct, or natural, but they are very different in energy and intent.

First, my version of direct. I use this 90% in daytime lone wolf sets (see my earlier posts on gaming the gym). It is very similar to submachine's style, to the Fidentia and Woodhaven stuff, but honestly, borrows most from Kevin Bates' eBook "Any Woman, Any Where" (which I found to be an excellent resource for getting my game started). Here's how it works.

See girl. Walk up, confident but not cocky. Not making eye contact yet. Energy is positive, happy, but not overly playful. Stand in front of her, wait till she looks up and make eye contact, and say "I was just on my way out, but had to stop and tell you that you are unbelievably cute." She now smiles and says thank you. And I mean every time. When I deliver this exact line comfortably, I always get a smile and a thank you.

Now is the critical part, because I need to start talking. What I usually do is assume attraction is taken care of and move to wide rapport. I may just introduce myself and ask what she's up to. I'll sprinkle a little banter in, but I make an effort not to be entertaining. I want to be interesting, not funny. I'll stay in as long as it's going well, but I want it to appear I am on my way out.

I'll make a parting move by saying "I really have to get going, but it's fun talking to you." I let her answer. If she agrees, I set up the day2 and number close. If she is hesitant, I go back to a little light banter and try to close again. In almost all cases, this approach leads to a number (I've even had girls tell me they have boyfriends and then give me their number).

It's a very low-pressure approach, and one I teach in daygame, because it's a perfect drive-by to build up confidence (if you have approach anxiety, make a short version of this part of your warmup routine… in addition to asking for directions, stop and tell any girl you see that she is really cute, and then keep going. The smile you get gives you the feedback to keep pushing forward).

On the other hand, Pickup101 has really broken some new (yet still very old ground) with the 'intense direct' approach.

This is the next evolution of direct… makes regular direct game look as ballsy as sending IMs to MySpace.com flakes. I call it the intense approach, Lance calls it the Movie Moment.

Ask anyone who's been through Art of Rapport what it's like… if you can do it, it's a fucking nuclear option.

No joke. With an admittedly small sample size, my day-2 close rate with this is over 50%.

In this one, you want to be as sincere, open, vulnerable, and nervous as you can be. It's hard to explain without demonstrating, but basically it involves the following.

Spot a girl you want to approach. Fixate on her. Focus on how attracted you are to her, and how much you want her to like you. Let yourself feel nervous. Picture how scary it will be to approach. Let that nervous energy build and cycle in you. When you feel it, start walking as slowly as you can towards her. Let yourself feel the eyes of the room on you. You should feel like Mel Gibson at the end of Braveheart being wheeled into the gallows with the eyes of the town upon him, defenseless but certain. Walk right up to her and stand directly in front of her. You should be quiet, calm, and almost beta. No cocky. No funny. Wait till she looks at you, and then let the words come. It's best if you really reach for them. It cannot be a script. Something honest and simple like,

"I was just sitting over there and I noticed you… something about you… and i knew I'd never forgive myself if I left without getting to know you. May I join you?"

It's critical that you are humble and genuine with this. It works best with girls by themselves in quiet places (tho you can try it in loud environments too by really locking eye contact). Once you sit, just sit. No game. You can even stay quiet for a few seconds. I've done this and had her start asking me questions. Whatever you do, do NOT get funny and entertaining. You want her to feel the tension of the moment and for it to build. Now you just need to talk like a normal person. Tell each other where you are from. Where you went to school. What you like to do for fun. You just want her to get a sense now that in addition to being an intense, ultra-confident, heroic man, you are also a normal, calm, real person. If you do it right, you just need to tell her when you'll see her again and then take her number. She will be so amazed and confused and smitten that it won't even be an issue.

I'm sure others can chime in on this subject, but this is my take. I've found that these two styles of direct are so effective and so fun, so rewarding, that it can make it tough to go back to pure fun club banter. But if you want to see what it feels like to do this completely natural, give it a shot.

Sean